“The idea that sex is “natural” still has great sway - except, maybe, what one hears referred to as the “unnatural” kinds - so people do not need to be taught how to do it. This is barely correct, and even people who have figured out how to make babies via Tab A and Slot B do not necessarily have the elements of pleasure worked out.”

-Women Don’t Need a G-shot

by Dr. Carol Queen

Amen to that!

And you know what’s even more fucked up?  Lots and lots of folks believe not only that they themselves ought to “just know” how to get off well, but that their partners ought to somehow “just know” too.  I mean, have you paid your telepathy bill this month?  Like I have this friend who has the most godawful track record, sexually speaking.  She’s a beautiful girl, sensible and educated, and a freethinking lesbian to boot.  But for as long as I’ve known her she’s complained about her lack of satisfaction in the sack.  I never understood until I actually had sex with her a couple of times…I’d ask her how it was, did she like what I was doing, what did she want to try next, etc and so on, and get a resounding silence for an answer.  Truthfully, I don’t even know if she actually came!  Finally she told me that she didn’t think people should talk during sex - if it was the right person, it would “just happen”.  Needless to say our intimacy didn’t last long.  I found her downright boring (not to mention insensitive, since she was just as uninterested in hearing about my desires as she was in telling me about hers) and she no doubt found me as lacking as all her previous lovers. 

I went on to have great sex with someone who communicated with me…my lesbian friend is, not surprisingly, still complaining.  What I really can’t figure out is why anybody (well, anybody who wasn’t poisoned by religion anyway) would do that to themselves. 

The mainstream US news media was delighted to tell us that we’d all be seeing a decrease in the amount of spam in our inboxes after the arrest of Robert Soloway, but it sure hasn’t made a bit of difference in the spam that vexes *ME* most, which is blog-comment spam.  This blog gets, on average, 100-200 spam comments a day; this has shot up to over 500 spam comments in the last 24 hours, and over 300 for every day since last Friday.

So if you’re wondering why you comments never seem to get posted, well, it’s because I oftentimes can’t find them under all that spam!  Some of them crack me up too…like the ones that try and make their comment look like a “real person” but the comment only says something generic like “love your site!” and then the same comment gets posted 17 times…all from the same name, although each time they use a different fake email address.  Or the ones where it’s just a run-on string of dozens of links to everything from “hardcore teen sluts” to “generic bible info”.  I am frankly astonished that spammers expect any success at all in selling whatever it is they’re selling with such clumsy tactics, but then I guess if you send out enough of the crap you’ll hit a sucker eventually.

Anyhow, those persons who vex me with blog-comment spam can take a cue from this pic (from my upcoming Chateau Cherie update - join me to see the rest!) and

KISS MY ASS!  bwahahahahaha!