Insert tab ‘a’ in slot ‘b’
“The idea that sex is “natural” still has great sway - except, maybe, what one hears referred to as the “unnatural” kinds - so people do not need to be taught how to do it. This is barely correct, and even people who have figured out how to make babies via Tab A and Slot B do not necessarily have the elements of pleasure worked out.”
Amen to that!
And you know what’s even more fucked up? Lots and lots of folks believe not only that they themselves ought to “just know” how to get off well, but that their partners ought to somehow “just know” too. I mean, have you paid your telepathy bill this month? Like I have this friend who has the most godawful track record, sexually speaking. She’s a beautiful girl, sensible and educated, and a freethinking lesbian to boot. But for as long as I’ve known her she’s complained about her lack of satisfaction in the sack. I never understood until I actually had sex with her a couple of times…I’d ask her how it was, did she like what I was doing, what did she want to try next, etc and so on, and get a resounding silence for an answer. Truthfully, I don’t even know if she actually came! Finally she told me that she didn’t think people should talk during sex - if it was the right person, it would “just happen”. Needless to say our intimacy didn’t last long. I found her downright boring (not to mention insensitive, since she was just as uninterested in hearing about my desires as she was in telling me about hers) and she no doubt found me as lacking as all her previous lovers.
I went on to have great sex with someone who communicated with me…my lesbian friend is, not surprisingly, still complaining. What I really can’t figure out is why anybody (well, anybody who wasn’t poisoned by religion anyway) would do that to themselves.